Irresponsible:

Narcissists will never take responsibility for their actions. Taking responsibilty to a narcissists menas that they are not perfect. This goes against their belief that they have no imperfections.

A narcissist’s inability to take responsibility is a masterclass in deflection and blame-shifting.

Imagine this scenario:

The Situation:

You and your narcissistic partner have a fight. They said something hurtful and insensitive.

The Denial:

When confronted, the narcissist might flatly deny ever saying it. “I never said that! You must be misremembering.”

The Gaslighting:

They might twist the situation around, making you question your own perception. “You’re being overly sensitive. Maybe you should apologize for blowing things out of proportion.”

The Blame Game:

The tables are turned. Suddenly, it’s your fault for reacting poorly or bringing up the issue in the first place. “If you hadn’t been so defensive, this wouldn’t be a problem!”

The Martyr Act:

They play the victim, claiming you’re the one causing problems. “Here we go again. You’re always starting fights!”

The Minimization:

Even if they admit to saying something, they downplay its impact. “It was just a joke! Can’t you take a harmless jab?”

Throughout this entire interaction, the narcissist dodges any accountability for their actions. They deflect blame, twist the narrative, and make you feel like the unreasonable one. This pattern of behavior can be incredibly frustrating and emotionally draining. It leaves you questioning your own reality and feeling like you can’t win, no matter what you do.